Every set of twins is different and the correct choice may be together one year and separate the next. Sometimes the school system will set a policy that forces the decision, but parents’ input should always be considered. If you are trying to decide the best option for your twins, consider these reasons to separate your twins into different classes. There is a natural tendency to compare twins, and the comparison can become quite uncomfortable when one twin is distinguished more favorably. A child that is constantly underperforming in comparison to his or her twin can easily become discouraged, instead of working to achieve at his or her own pace. In such a situation, both children can learn more effectively if they are separated. While it may present some difficult challenges as the twins learn to separate from each other, in the long term it can restore the balance of the relationship and help both children succeed in school. While this can produce some positive results, it can also prove detrimental to their educational goals and troublesome for their teacher and classmates. Twins who are decidedly competitive may thrive when they are separated. Being able to perform on their own terms can help lessen the animosity and rivalry, and help them achieve as individuals. Adults can relate it to working in the same office with their spouse or lover. It can be hard to concentrate on learning when that important person is right in the same room. Certainly, some twins are able to handle being in close proximity during the school day, but others simply can’t handle the distraction of being together. If they are exclusive in their relationship, with no interest in playing with other children, they may benefit from being separated. In a classroom setting, the relationship between twins has to conform to the classroom rules and standards of behavior. Otherwise, it is disruptive to the class and a behavior problem for the teacher. Certainly, identical twins shouldn’t be forced to separate if there are compelling reasons to keep them together, but if their similar appearances make their classroom presence difficult or distracting, parents may want to consider separating them. Of course, parents must make a decision based on the best possible outcome for each individual child and the family as a whole, and not at the whim of a young child. But your twins’ honest feelings should be taken into consideration in making the decision. While you know your multiples best as a parent, balance your perceptions with the perspectives of these trusted professionals. They may see aspects of your children’s personalities that aren’t as evident to you, and if they recommend separation, it’s wise to consider their views in making your decision.
